This post is a paid partnership with Aptamil Follow on Milk. All words and opinions are my own.
With Freya’s first birthday coming up, I’m finding myself feeling sentimental. I’m relishing all of the cuddles (even the middle of the night ones) and savouring all of the milk feeds. There’s something about the milk feeds with her, that I adore so much. She cuddles in close to me, looks at me with big, trusting eyes and pats me on the chin with her chubby fingers. It melts my heart every time and it’s a wonderful way to connect to her and have some calm amongst the daily chaos.
I haven't written about Alfred in detail much recently. I think it might be because he is getting older and I'm starting to feel extra concerned with his privacy, especially since he started preschool. This is a topic for a whole other post, so whilst I go and think it all through a little more, for now I want to do a teeny update to mark his third birthday.
Even though my blog is going in the more "style" direction these days, I do still treat it as a place to store memories. Somewhere we can all look back at things on. I hope that if Alfred ever reads my little space on this vast internet world, that he can see how much I love him and read about some of the adventures we had together.
When was the last time that you had some “me time” or did something that was just for you?
I sometimes find that, being a mum to two small children, it's easy for me to forget about myself and what makes me feel good. So much energy is directed towards making the children happy and keeping them clean and well fed, that by the end of the day all I want to do is crawl into bed and pass out.
Weeks (or months) can go by, without so much as a thought towards my own well being. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't change it for the world, I love raising my children and seeing the lovely little humans that they are becoming. But sometimes, doing little things for myself is absolutely needed, to keep functioning as a person.
When you are a new mum, all of the lack of attention to your own self care can create a “not feeling like yourself” kind of vibe. It's nice to find ways to start feeling like yourself again.
I wasn't sure whether or not to write about Freya's birth. I love reading other people's birth stories, but it is also a very private affair and I didn't know if it was for me to share with thousands of people.
But, I have decided to do it, because I want to talk about how positive it was. There is so much talk about the "positive birth" these days and that is a wonderful thing. However, I find that this sometimes means people assume it goes hand in hand with having a water birth / little to no pain relief / avoiding inductions and other interventions.
For a lot of women, this type of birth is not possible and then they feel like they have failed if they haven't achieved this. They can also feel traumatised by the birth experience (especially first time mothers), as it has been built up to something that might not be the reality of childbirth.
So, this is why I am sharing with you all my birth experience - it was a very positive and happy birth. It was also an induced birth, with an elective epidural.
I often get messages from people asking me how I do it all and fit in work with raising two small children. The truth is, it isn't always that easy, but you do find ways around it. I thought I would talk about how I have found something that vaguely resembles balance over the years and what our day to day often looks like.
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