When was the last time that you had some “me time” or did something that was just for you?
I sometimes find that, being a mum to two small children, it's easy for me to forget about myself and what makes me feel good. So much energy is directed towards making the children happy and keeping them clean and well fed, that by the end of the day all I want to do is crawl into bed and pass out.
Weeks (or months) can go by, without so much as a thought towards my own well being. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't change it for the world, I love raising my children and seeing the lovely little humans that they are becoming. But sometimes, doing little things for myself is absolutely needed, to keep functioning as a person.
When you are a new mum, all of the lack of attention to your own self care can create a “not feeling like yourself” kind of vibe. It's nice to find ways to start feeling like yourself again.
I find that once I get out of the newborn phase with my kids, I start craving a few minutes here and there that are just for me. That can be a cup of tea in peace, a chance to catch up on a magazine, or a quiet shower, alone, without my toddler shouting, “but I want to get in the shower! Mummy, what is that? Mummy, baby sister’s crying! Mummy! Mummy! Mummmmyyyyyy!”
You get the idea.
Finding some time each week, to indulge in something that I enjoy, definitely helps to rejuvenate me and then, in turn, make me feel like a better mum.
Some other things that I like to do, to give myself a boost are;
Going for a run or other types of exercise. This might be a weird one for some, but I find that it really clears my head. It gives me a chance to think and I feel really alive afterwards. Plus it helps to keep me fit!
Make sure I carve out time to see family and friends. I get a real boost from socialising and it is often a great pick me up. It’s wonderful to catch up with people, have a little laugh, a cry and have some good, old fashioned adult conversation.
Have some alone time with my husband. This can be watching a favourite TV show, catching up over dinner, or going for a walk together. We are together a lot, but it’s hard for us to have a normal chat half of the time. Our two year old has developed the habit of shouting over us, each time we try to talk to each other! It’s sometimes nice to be able to have some grown-up time together, without the distraction of the little ones.
Wear fun clothes, even if they aren’t always practical and getting a good haircut. Nothing makes me feel more fresh than a hair update! I also love expressing myself with what I wear, this is an important part of who I am and I don't want to lose it. So yes, I will wear pink trousers to the park and leopard print shoes on the preschool run! Even if that seems ridiculous to others.
Playing the piano. I am a pianist and have found that it is so much harder to practise, now that I have children. I was really starting to miss it, so now I try and find five minutes here and there, to play through some of my old favourites. It helps me feel present again and can really chill me out if I have been feeling a bit overwhelmed or stressed. I find music can be such a healer for so many things.
Before I had children, what I wore to bed was also one of those things that I liked to indulge a bit more in and is something has been put to one side in recent months.
Recently, I have often ended up wearing the same old t-shirts and tracksuits at night, due to the convenience.
When I had a look at the new White Stuff SS18 nightwear collection, I knew it was just what I needed to freshen up my sleepwear. The pieces are pretty, but comfortable and are just what I need right now, to treat myself and start feeling more like “me” again.
Let's face it, if I’m going to spend a lot of my mornings in my pyjamas, because I haven't had a chance to get in the shower, I might as well make them beautiful ones!
The whole collection is full of fresh colour palettes and pretty patterns. The fabrics are soft and lightweight, which is perfect for the warmer months that are about to come. (I hope the warmer months are upon us anyway... I’m getting pretty bored of all this chilly weather!)
I love how you can mix and match each of the pieces, as they are all so complementary to each other.
I will probably be living in my new pj’s now, as I don’t feel like such a hot mess in them. I’m even happy to answer the door to the postman in them!
Here’s to looking after ourselves a bit more and maybe getting a bit more sleep in some snazzy nightwear… well, we can dream can’t we?
I would love to hear, if you have managed it yet, how you spend your precious minutes by yourself?
Amelie Lemon Robe
Luna Lemon Sweat
Ruby Sleep Tee
Beatrice Broidery PJ Bottoms
Elisa Lemon PJ Bottoms
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