Written by Rebecca Raynham.
So, a few weeks ago, I announced on Instagram that we were expecting baby number two, which is very exciting for us!
I have had a lot of emails and DMs asking how I am getting on, does Alfred know, what is it like being pregnant again, and the like.
I thought I would do a post that covered most of the things people have asked me.
The baby is due mid November, which means there are already a lot of differences with this pregnancy experience, compared to being pregnant with Alfred. Alfred is a May baby, so I was pregnant with him throughout the Winter and early Spring. I didn't get too hot because it was the Winter and when he arrived in May, the weather was gorgeous and we went outside a lot, which I think helped towards me not getting PPD. I don't want to say getting outside helped protect me against PPD alone, as I know a lot of other factors contribute towards that, but for me a lot of my mental health is massively improved by being outside and getting out and about. I notice slumps in my mood during the Winter, especially if we haven't been out for a few days.
With this second pregnancy, I am already experiencing the hot weather and am getting a lot sweatier that I usually do! I'm also wondering what it will be like to have a newborn in the Winter - will I get outside enough? Will not getting outside enough affect me too much? Or will I just love the excuse to stay indoors and snuggle up?
We decided last August that we wanted to start trying for another baby. Alfred was 15 months old at the time, I had just stopped breastfeeding for good and he was sleeping really well. Before that, I knew I wanted another baby at some point, but couldn't imagine doing it imminently, as I felt like Alfred needed me too much and was still a baby. As soon as he stopped nursing and started sleeping through, it suddenly felt possible!
It ended up taking seven months for me to get pregnant, which isn't that long in the grand scheme of things, but wasn't one of those "I got pregnant as soon as I stopped breastfeeding" stories. I think my body needed a bit of time to get into a good rhythm again and prepare itself for another tiny human.
I did fall into to the trap of spending more money than needed on "early detection" pregnancy tests, in the hope that I would see the two pink lines each month. So I stopped doing it. Then in March, we were about to go out for the day and something told me to just do it. So I did and sure enough, the two lines were there. I couldn't believe it!
The first trimester with baby number two was a lot more difficult than with my first pregnancy.
The fatigue was so extreme on some days, that I couldn't lift my arms up or talk properly. I was so lucky that I wasn't sick, but the nausea was so intense and just WOULD. NOT. GO. AWAY. I just felt so ill. To top it off, I started getting migraines 3 times a week, which I am not sure have gone yet, so overall it has been harder this time around. I know a lot of people that have suffered from HG though, so I am aware that I got off pretty lightly.
Once the sickness went, I started loving food again (yay!) and am currently pretty obsessed every day on what dinner I will be cooking that night. I think all I talk about is dinner.
I have also been able to carry on my usual exercise regime, which I am so glad about. It really is good for my mind and body and I like knowing that I will be going into labour as strong as possible.
Thinking about the actual birth is a lot scarier for me this time around, due to how it went down with Alfred, but I will talk about that in another post.
Alfred really doesn't understand what a baby brother or sister is. He knows the words, but can't comprehend what they mean. What I am doing is just mentioning it a lot to him, so the vocabulary is there and then I guess the penny will drop in November! I am sure he will be a lovely big brother, as he is such a sweet soul. I am excited for him to meet this little one.
I am currently 15 and a half weeks and loving how my belly has already popped out. I felt like I was waiting for an eternity to start showing with Alfred, so this is quite exciting for me. I am also convinced that I have also felt the baby move already, even though I have an anterior placenta. (Again. Sigh. More on that another time.)
We are going for our 16 week check up on Monday and I can't wait to hear the baby's heart beat. We are so looking forward to meeting him/her in November!